Finding the Love of Your Life allows Dr. Warren to address the questions that matter most to eHarmony users.
Wouldn't it be nice to have one of the foremost experts on finding the love of your life coaching you through your eHarmony experience?
Complete Coaching Series Finding the Love of Your Life - Complete Library. Wouldn't it be nice to have one of the foremost experts on finding the love of your life coaching you through your eHarmony experience? With Dr. Neil Clark Warren's new 12 CD audio series Finding the Love of Your Life you'll be coached through your eHarmony experience by the loving hand of one of America's most celebrated relationship experts. Each CD contains approximately 60 minutes of coaching and insight from Dr. Warren on the major areas of mate selection. Each CD also contains an online self-assessment. By spending 20 minutes taking each online questionnaire you'll get a deeper understanding of your own personality and relationship needs.
With Dr. Neil Clark Warren's new 12 CD audio series Finding the Love of Your Life you'll be coached through your eHarmony experience by the loving hand of one of America's most celebrated relationship experts. Have you wanted to hear Dr. Warren talk at length about the details of finding, dating, and choosing to marry your soul mate?
Now you can with the release a new 12 CD Coaching Series called Finding the Love of Your Life. Each CD contains approximately 60 minutes of guidance and insight from Dr. Warren on the major areas of mate selection. Each CD also contains an online self-assessment. By spending 20 minutes taking each online questionnaire you'll get a deeper understanding of your own personality and relationship needs.
But this is not a boring study on the details of compatibility. Finding the Love of Your Life allows Dr. Warren to address the questions that matter most to eHarmony users.
- Learn how to avoid the 7 fatal mistakes most people make when selecting a mate.
- Make yourself more attractive to your partner by understanding how to leverage your relationship strengths.
- Learn the secrets to a truly joyful long term relationship.
- Take the "Bottom Line Test" of your strengths and weaknesses.
- The 50 similarities that matter most in a relationship.
- Learn how to know if your partner has the "commitment gene".
- Learn where sex belongs in a new relationship.
Issue 1: Finding The Love of Your Life Introduction
In This Issue: Your marriage partner, over the course of your life time, will give you thousands and thousands of opportunities to experience frustration or joy. In his 35 years as a psychologist, Dr.Neil Clark Warren has seen over 7,000 people wrestling with the consequences of their decision. This series of messages and self-assessments is designed to help you hone your mate selection skills and discover a brilliant set of tools for choosing your soul mate.
- Why This Series? Why Now?
Dr. Warren explains the motivation behind Find The Love of Your Life and what he hopes to give every single listener.
The Greatest Experience on Earth.
Luck and Your Soul Mate.
The One True Key to Marital Success.
- Risk Free Hope.
There is a good reason for you to be optimistic about finding your soul mate. No matter what your age, your past history, or your occupation... you can find someone to love and live with for the rest of your life.
What you need to find your soul mate.
What is "Broad-Based Compatibility" anyway?
The Skeptic Inside You.
- Broad-based Compatibility: The 29 Dimensions.
There's nothing like falling in love. The physical and emotional feeling is one of the most intense human experiences, but if you want to make it last, you’ve got to bring something else to your decision making process. In this segment, Dr. Warren discusses his plan for "careful thinking."
Are Science and Romance Compatible?
Is "Love at First Sight" Fact or Fiction?
The Room of 25.
In addition to the audio CD, Issue 1 also contains a "Where Am I Now" self-assessment. After you've completed the assessment, print out your results and keep them for future reference.
Issue 2: Emotional Health - The Single Most Important Key to Happiness
In This Issue: It sounds like a riddle, but becoming ready for a relationship means becoming happy even when you're alone. With the goal of securing your happiness, you need to maximize your emotional health. Here's how to go about it.
- Recognizing Your Profound Significance.
Dr. Warren begins with one of his relationship absolutes: "Get yourself healthy before you get yourself married." In this segment you'll learn about...
Tapping into your Self-Talk.
Treating Yourself with Dignity.
Moving Past Your Past.
- Free To Be: Unswerving Authenticity.
Do you ever feel like you're living to please others? In this discussion, Dr. Warren looks at concrete ways to REALLY be who you are without fear. He also examines.
Who's Sitting in Your Control Booth?
The Disease of The Pleaser.
Your Blind Spots.
- The Power of Love: Give First.
You can be instantly attractive to everyone you meet, and it has nothing to do with your hair cut, or the way you dress. In the final segment, we look at self-giving love as Dr. Warren explains...
The Best Gift You Can Give.
Reading Your Social Barometer.
What Women and Men want Most in a Partner.
In addition to the audio CD, Issue 2 also contains an Emotional Health self-assessment. After you've completed the assessment, print out your results and keep them for future reference.
Issue 3: Knowledge - Do You Know What It Takes?
In This Issue: It doesn't take a psychologist to know that relationship knowledge is important in mate selection. But where on earth do you start? In this issue you will learn:
- The 7 Most Prevalent Causes of Faulty Mate Selection.
Dr. Warren has done hundreds of divorce autopsies to discover just what went wrong before a marriage died. In this segment you'll learn about the most defeating. For example:
Making Your Decision Too Fast.
Making Your Decision Too Early.
Being Too Eager.
- Choosing Brilliantly: The Complexity of Mate Selection.
Dr. Warren calls mate selection "the most under appreciated subject in all of human discourse."
Learn The Undeniable Red Flags.
Target the similarities that REALLY matter between two people.
The One Trait that has more to do with making a relationship work than any other.
- What’s The Bottom Line?
"The loneliest people in the world aren’t singles. They are people who have married poorly." In this segment about The Bottom Line Dr. Warren looks at...
Discovering your Bottom Line Total.
Understanding the Market Place.
Take the Bottom Line Test.
In addition to the audio CD, Issue 3 also contains a self-assessment entitled, “The Bottom Line Test.” After you've completed the assessment, print out your results and keep them for future reference.
Issue 4 : Soul Mates - Striking the Perfect Match
In This Issue: It's time to get down to the details about mate selection. Most real skills take time to perfect, and this is no different, but by the end of this segment you'll have a clear understanding in these areas.
- Who Are You?
In order to find your soul mate you must develop a clear mental picture of who you are and what values are important to you. Dr. Warren explains this path towards understanding yourself:
Know Thyself - 20 Questions.
The Power of your Family Tree.
Analyzing Your Life in 5 Year Segment.
- The Same Game: The Importance of Similarities
Once you've gotten clear about who you are, now it's time to understand how that translates into what you need.
Similarities? Don't Opposites Attract?
The Energy Drain of Compromise.
50 Similarities That Matter Most.
- Must Haves and Can't Stands: Do You Know Yours?
"It's important to have lots of similarities, but it's more important to have similarities in the areas that matter most to you."
The Best Way to be Really Picky.
Your "Must Have" Shopping List.
The #1 Can’t Stand both Men and Women Share.
In addition to the audio CD, Issue 4 also contains a "Perfect Match" self-assessment. After you've completed the assessment, print out your results and keep them for future reference.
Issue 5 : Communication. Getting Your Master's Degree
In This Issue: "Communication" has become the counseling cliche of modern times. Couples spend decades talking around each other trying to find a way to be heard. Do you know if you're a good communicator? Dr. Warren will help you find out with this set of tools.
- Express Yourself.
The person you are is made up of the secret thoughts and feelings inside your head. If you every want someone to really know you, you've got to get good at expressing what's deep inside.
Why women usually have the communication advantage.
The one change that will make every relationship instantly better.
What is Verbal Intimacy, and why do I need it?
- Now Hear This.
If you want your potential spouse to feel warm, safe and loved, you've got to learn the art of listening. Dr. Warren shares these important keys.
Putting Yourself Aside.
Dealing with The Shy Date.
Listening in Action - The Restatement Exercise.
- The Real Reason for Talking.
Communication may be a single person's most valuable tool. It's how you sense if you and your date are together or not. This final segment will help you determine how your masters in communication can help you find your soul mate. You'll learn how communication:
Highlights the differences that spell DANGER.
Let's you see deeper into a perspective mate than you ever thought possible.
Puts a microscope on your Must Haves and prevents the disease of "Settling".
In addition to the audio CD, Issue 5 also contains a Communication self-assessment. After you've completed the assessment, print out your results and keep them for future reference.
Issue 6 : Passion - Harnessing Your Wild Side
In This Issue: There's no way to talk about mate selection without considering the impact of physical intimacy. Our culture uses sex to sell everything from television programming to washing powder and there's no escaping the message that sex is a normal part of romantic relations. But, if you're trying to make a brilliant decision about who to choose as a life partner, what role should sexual considerations play in that decision?
- The Chemistry Formula.
It's one of the questions Dr. Warren receives most often. "I really like my current boyfriend (or girlfriend), but I don't feel any romantic chemistry. Will that come later?"
Love – Chemistry = Friendship
What is Chemistry like?
- Managing Your Passion.
If passion is needed to start a relationship, how can it be a relationship wrecker? Like many things in life, passion must be managed to be useful. In this segment, Dr. Warren considers.
Passion and your judgment.
Creating a concrete plan.
When to drop your sexual guard.
- Companionate Love: The Love That Endures.
You won't find it in the dictionary. Companionate love is Dr. Warren's term for a relationship that has grown and used passion well in order to move into the next level of intimacy.
Companionate Love helps you enjoy what your partner enjoys.
Companionate Love helps you enjoy space within a relationship.
What you can expect from Companionate Love.
In addition to the audio CD, Issue 6 also contains a "Harnessing Your Wild Side" self-assessment. After you've completed the assessment, print out your results and keep them for future reference.
Issue 7 : Managing Conflict. Fighting the Good Fight
In This Issue: We start with Dr. Warren's contention that much of the time, conflict is a GOOD thing. Then we drill down deep into the ways two people fight and how that can be managed to create a deeper intimacy.
- Conflict Gives Marriage a Fighting Chance.
"If two people are being authentic, they are going to experience conflict." In this segment Dr. Warren explains...
Never Had a Fight? Don’t Think About Marriage.
100 brilliant marriages, 90% conflict.
- The Art of a Good "Fight".
Using conflict to your advantage isn't as easy as acknowledging it's value. You'll need some concrete tools to take the negativity and make a positive experience. In this segment Dr. Warren takes a look at those tools.
Getting Heard Out To "The Edges".
Know What You’re Fighting About.
The XYZ Formula.
- The Conflict Pay Off.
When applying conflict resolution to mate selection there are two important points to remember: Sometimes too much conflict is too much and preparation can make all the difference. In this final segment Dr. Warren and Dr. Parrott help you get prepared.
How much conflict is too much conflict?
Use your parents to prepare for conflict.
Setting your conflict rules.
In addition to the audio CD, Issue 7 also contains a "Managing Conflict" self-assessment. After you've completed the assessment, print out your results and keep them for future reference.
Issue 8: With This Ring, I Thee Wed. Understanding Commitment.
In This Issue: When you slip a ring on someone's finger just what are you promising to do? Dr. Warren takes a good hard look at what you need to know before you make a life long commitment.
- The Biggest Promise You’ll Ever Make.
A wedding vow promises a lot more than just staying in the marriage til the end. Dr. Warren breaks apart the wedding vow and helps you understand what each piece really means.
Love = Value.
How Do You Cherish Someone?
Sex, Support and Protection – What You're Promising Your Spouse.
- Beyond Loving, Honoring and Cherishing.
No matter how well matched a couple is, living a life where you love, honor, and cherish in all circumstances is HARD.
I've Promised All That?
Making Sure You Beat The Marriage Statistics - Automatic Commitment.
Want to make Commitment Easier?
- Does this person have the commitment gene?
You may be extremely confident in your ability to make a commitment last, but what about the person who will make this journey with you? How can you possibly know if this person will stick with you?
The Character of Commitment.
The Importance of Time.
In addition to the audio CD, Issue 8 also contains a commitment self-assessment. After you've completed the assessment, print out your results and keep them for future reference.
Issue 9 : Acceptance. Family, Friends, and Your Soul Mate
In This Issue: Who we choose as a mate reverberates through every relationship in our life. Our friends and family are faced with the task of accepting and learning to love a complete stranger. How can you help make the transition an easy one, and what if there are bumps in the road?
- When The People I Care About Have Doubts.
It can often be hard to separate a parent's reasonable concern and separation anxiety. Dr. Warren helps you consider both.
The Truth Is Always Friendlier Than Anything Less Than The Truth.
Can You Handle The Truth? - Invite The Feedback.
What Is A Good Decision, Anyway?
- So What If The Invitations Have Been Sent?
Are the people you love and respect cheering for a marriage you're unsure of pursuing? As Dr. Warren says, "Your mother is not marrying this person." Get ready for a look at handling your over eager family.
Doesn't Everybody Get Cold Feet?
Are Parents Good Relationship Decision Makers?
Your Big Decision And The "Last Minute Option".
- When My Best Friends Feel Threatened.
For many people, your friends ARE your family. There are several reasons why your friend might start to move away from you and your new relationship. Here's what you can do about it.
Why Would A Friend Pull Back?
Getting It On The Table And Having "The" Conversation.
Want To Have A Brilliant Marriage? – Go Get Some Great Friends.
In addition to the audio CD, Issue 9 also contains a "Family, Friends and Your Soul Mate" self-assessment. After you've completed the assessment, print out your results and keep them for future reference.
Issue 10 : The Past. Checking Your Baggage at the Door
In This Issue: It's hard to keep your old baggage from having a toxic affect on your mate selection process. The remnants of your childhood, your upbringing, your prior relationships, your prior breakups all factor in to your reactions, beliefs, fears and habits. If you can't find a way to recognize and understand how your past affects your future, you're simply wandering blindly into the most important decision of your life. Today's message will help you clean the slate.
- The Weight of Baggage.
"Awareness is curative." This exercise will help you understand your sore spots and where they come from.
How does baggage impact us today?
Why can't you just let go of the past?
Tour Your Own Life and Look for the Pain.
- Let He Or She Who Has No Baggage...
Maybe you think you don't have any baggage. Maybe you think you live in the present and are free from your past. You may be surprised at the ways that our past traumas reappear in our current relationships.
How Secretive Families Produce The Worst Baggage.
The Healer, The Pleaser, The Reconciler And The Class Clown.
Ranking Your Hurts to Pinpoint Your Baggage.
- Traveling Light.
You've learned what baggage is. You've learned where it comes from and how it can wreck a great relationship. Now it's time to lose it, for good.
The Power Of The Pen.
Wiggle Free Based On Your Understanding.
The Risk Of Moving Forward.
In addition to the audio CD, Issue 10 also contains a "Checking Your Baggage" self-assessment. After you've completed the assessment, print out your results and keep them for future reference.
Issue 11 : Deal Breakers. What About Someone Who...?
In This Issue: We all know the feeling of meeting someone who seems almost right for us. We have collected 12 of the most common member questions from eHarmony’s Customer Care Department. Each question comes from a member who wants to know if the problem they've found is a deal-breaker.
- Segment 1.
Here is the first group of eHarmony questions. What about someone who...
...runs hot and cold for me?
...lacks the romance gene?
...has parents who were married 3 times?
...is a lot older or younger than me?
- Segment 2.
In this second set of questions, Dr. Warren talks some of the hottest relationship topics. What about someone who...
...has experienced a recent divorce?
...is extremely possessive?
...has a promiscuous past?
- Segment 3.
In this final set of questions, the doctors dig into the most common question of all, Long Distance Relationships. What about someone who...
...has a different ethnic background than me?
...doesn't have acceptable hygiene?
...lives far from me?
...has a great many opposite sex friends?
Issue 12 : Dreaming a Big Dream for Your Relationship
In This Issue: You've reached the culmination of the Finding The Love of Your Life series. In this final issue Dr. Warren shares his personal vision for how you and your soul mate can build a life together. We've covered so much of the nuts and bolts that allow to people to love each other. Now, Dr. Warren talks about the dream that will inspire you and push your relationship to higher and higher level.
- A 5 Year Dream.
Dreams pull you in their direction. It's time for a blueprint in dreaming well.
Your Future Depends on Your Ability to Dream.
Creating a "High Resolution" Dream.
Pushing The Envelope – Dream Big.
- Dreaming Together.
You should have a dream for finding the love of your life, and this series has increased the odds that you will realize that dream in its totality. It's time to spend some time dreaming about the specific person you want to live with and love forever.
Dream About The Qualities You Want Your Soul Mate To Have.
Make Sure Everything Compliments Your 5 Year Dream.
The Undeniable Power Of Intentionality.
- Living Big.
In this final segment Dr. Warren shares his passion for the "big" life. He gives you a glimpse of how this philosophy has had a tremendous effect on his life and how you can apply it to your search for a soul mate.
Discovering A Bigger And Bigger Life.
Half Full or Half Empty and Why It Matters.
3 Secrets Of The Great Life.
In addition to the audio CD, Issue 12 also contains a "Where Are You Know" self-assessment. After you've completed the assessment, print out your results and compare them to the first "Where Are You Know" self-assessment you took with Issue 1.
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