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OandO :: common sense is your best tool.

One and Only offers a secure and fun environment for meeting and relating with others in Internet. It's a great place to build loving and trusting friendships that can lead to long lasting real life relationships. Whether you decide to correspond with our members online or meet members offline, please use sound judgment and be responsible for your conduct online and off. In both the real and virtual worlds, common sense is your best safety tool.

No rush :: Start slow. No use in harrying. Watch out for somebody who seems too good to be true. Start by first communicating solely via email. Be on the look out for odd behaviour or inconsistencies. "Listen" to your correspondent's words. The person at the other end may not be who or what he/she says. Trust your instincts. If anything makes you uncomfortable, walk away for your own safety and protection.

Guard Your Anonymity. All correspondence with OandO members done via our doubleblind email or via your email program using your anonymous Nick Name, does not reveal any personal contact information about you. Never include your last name, real email address, Web site URL, home address, phone number, place of work, or other identifying information in your profile or initial emails you exchange with other members. Make sure your email signature file is turned off, or does not include identifying information, when corresponding with an OandO member via your own email. Stop communicating with anyone who pressures you for this information or attempts in any way to trick you into revealing it. Take the time you need to become comfortable with someone before revealing contact information. Ask questions and make sure you are satisfied with the answers. Trust your instincts, move cautiously and be selective.

Confidentiality is important. When you send a message, you control when your identity is revealed to the user you are contacting. You'll never see it or your real name displayed at OandO, and all written communication from other members will be directed through our double-blind email system. Our double-blind e-mail system will forward the messages to your email address you used to register, without ever revealing your real email address.

To send anonymous email: When you send email to a member through the OandO site, your real email address is never revealed.

The message is sent
from yourNickname@talk.oneandonly.com
to recipientsNickname@talk.oneandonly.com.

In that way, your real email address is never revealed. You can check the "Send a copy to myself" box to have a copy of your outgoing message forwarded to your own email address as well as your intended recipient.

PLEASE NOTE: This works only when you send a message from the OandO website. Read below to learn more about protecting your anonymity when replying to a message you've received.

If you want to send an anonymous email to a user from your own email program, be sure to address your messages to: Nickname@talk.oneandonly.com. Remember, you can only send anonymous email from the email address you used to register with OandO - this is one of a number of security measures OandO uses to prevent others from stealing your identity on our service. If you want to send email from an email address other than the email address you used to register, you will first need to change your email addres in your Membership Info.

To reply to email from other OandO users: Make sure not to simply hit "reply"! By doing this, you may be sending your actual email address! HELP US PROTECT YOUR ANONYMITY! Be sure to turn off your auto-signatures and auto-responders. Make certain not to copy (cc:) or forward email to yourself when you send a message from your own email program. When you reply to a Nickname@talk.oneandonly.com email address, your real email address will be removed from the "From" line, so the recipient will see only: YourNickname@talk.oneandonly.com.

Receiving Anonymous Email: You will receive anonymous email at your registered email address, exactly like a regular email message.

Saving Correspondence: We do not save email sent through oneandonly.com. If you want to save email messages that you have sent and received, save copies on your own computer as you would save any other email, or copy and paste the body of your email to a document that you can save.

Common Sense and Exercise Caution. Careful, well thought decisions generally lead to better results in dating, and this is certainly true with online dating too. Guard against trusting the untrustworthy. Any suitor must earn your trust gradually, through consistently honorable, forthright behavior. Your job is to take all the time you need to test for a trustworthy person, and pay careful attention along the way. Take a relatively conservative approach to trusting anyone you meet online. If you think someone is lying, it is likely that they are, so act accordingly. Move on to someone you can eventually trust. Conduct yourself and your romances in a responsible manner. Don't fall in love at the click of a mouse. Don't become prematurely intimate with someone, even if that intimacy only occurs online.

Request a Photo. A photo will give you a good idea of the person's appearance, which may prove helpful in achieving a deep feeling about your correspondent. In fact, it's best to view several images of this person in a variety of settings: casual, formal, indoor, outdoors. If he or she continuously comes up with an excuse, it may be because that person has something to hide. Getting a photo scanned is so easy, so there is little excuse for not doing it.

Talk Via Telephone. A phone call can reveal much about a person's communication and social skills. It is worth the cost of the call to protect your security. But do not give out your personal phone number to a stranger. Try a cell phone number instead for added security. Or make arrangements to call from a pay phone. Only when you feel completely comfortable should you furnish your phone number.

Meet When YOU Are Ready. The beauty of meeting and relating online is that you can gradually collect information and then make a choice about pursuing the relationship in the real world. You are never obligated to meet anyone, regardless of your level of online intimacy. And even if you do decide to arrange a meeting, you always have the right to change your mind. It's possible that your decision to keep the relationship at the anonymous level is based on a hunch that you can't logically explain. Trust yourself. Go with your gut instincts, even when they can't be logically explained. Never meet someone who argues against your instincts, finds logical flaws with your feelings or pressures you in any way.

Watch for Red Flags. Pay attention to any displays of anger, intense frustration or attempts at pressuring or controlling you. Acting in a passive aggressive manner, making demeaning or disrespectful comments or any physically inappropriate behavior are all red flags. You should also be concerned if your date exhibits any of the following conduct without providing an acceptable explanation:

• Provides inconsistent information about age, interests, appearance, profession, marital status, employment, etc.
• Refuses to speak to you on the phone after establishing ongoing, online intimacy.
• Fails to provide direct answers to direct questions.
• Appears in person to be significantly different from his or her online persona.
• Never introduces you to friends, professional associates or family members.

Select the Safest Possible Environment. When you make the choice to meet offline, tell someone where you are going and when you will return. Leave your date's name and telephone number with that person. Never arrange for your date to pick you up at home. Provide your own transportation, meet in a public place at a time when many people are present, and when the date is over, leave on your own as well. A familiar restaurant or coffee shop, at a time when a lot of other people will be present is often a fine choice. Avoid hikes, bike rides or drives in remote areas for the first few dates. If you decide to move to another location, take your own car. When the timing is appropriate, thank your date for getting together and say good bye.

Take Extra Caution Outside Your Area. If you are flying in from another area, arrange for your own car and a hotel room. Do not disclose the name of your hotel and never allow your date to make the arrangements for you. Rent a car at the airport and drive directly to your hotel. Call your date from the hotel or meet at the location you have already agreed to. If the location seems inappropriate or unsafe, go back to your hotel. Try to contact your date at that location, or leave a message on a home machine. Always make sure a friend or family member knows your plans and has your contact information. And if possible, carry a cell phone at all times.

Get Yourself Out of a Jam. Never do anything you feel unsure about. If you are in any way afraid of your date, use your best judgment to diffuse the situation and get out of there. Excuse yourself long enough to call a friend for advice, ask someone else on the scene for help, or slip out the back door and drive away. If you feel you are in danger call the police. It's always better to be safe than sorry. Never worry or feel embarrassed about your behavior. Your safety is much more important than one person's opinion of you.

While liars, cheaters and imposters certainly ply their craft on the Web, you'll also find them in night clubs, among the membership ranks of offline dating services, at cocktail parties, and occasionally sitting across from you at your local cafe. Regardless of where, or how, you meet someone, dating is never a risk-free activity. A little caution will reduce your risk in these matters of the heart.

One and Only welcomes adults looking to play, meet and connect whether lustful, lovelorn or just looking for fun.

Describe what you want in your oneandonly ad! Remember, though, that we review every ad and may reject nicknames, headlines and ads that contain any of the following:

• Direct contact information (i.e., email addresses, URLs, ICQ/instant messenger IDs, phone numbers, full names or addresses)
• Any location or descriptive information that threatens a member's anonymity
• Abusive language of any kind (i.e., vulgarity or racism)
• Discussion or descriptions of illegal acts or behavior (i.e., drug use or violence)
• Business or political advertisements or solicitations
• Material that exploits or solicits personal information from individuals under the age of 18
• Foreign languages (to effectively monitor your ad, it must be in English)
• Unauthorized use of copyrighted or trademarked material

One and Only will not publish ads from from:

• Incarcerated individuals
• Individuals under the age of 18
• Please review our photo guidelines for information on acceptable photos.

Photo guidelines :: Your photos.

• Your ad will feature one primary photo. Everyone can see your primary photo. This is your prime opportunity to attract people to your ad.
• You must appear in your primary photo. We will not post photos of children or pets alone.
• Keep your clothes on, please. Seductive photos are allowed but must not contain nudity.
• Only subscribers can see all of your photos. You can have a total of ten photos. You can opt to make any of these photos your primary photo, featured in search results with your ad. However, only subscribers will be the only ones to see your other photos.
• We will reject all photos that :: Contain cartoon characters, children or celebrities; nudity; are blank, poor quality or copyrighted; contain or suggest illegal activities, drugs or drug paraphernalia; we deem offensive, obscene or violent.

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